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    Abuse against women: Victims and perpetrators


    By Elias Gbadamosi 

    Victims

    On the 24th day of June 2011, nothing gave Titilayo Omozoje an inkling that she would meet and dine with the grim reaper on that very day. It was her husband's birthday and she already made plans to make the day a special one for him. Unfortunately, it was this same man who sent Titilayo to her maker in what has been described as one of the worst cases of domestic violence ever witnessed in the whole Nigeria. Titilayo was stabbed violently 76 times; the chest region, stomach region and the back of her hands. In fact, a vital part of her body was mutilated. 

    In the course of investigating Titilayo's death, friends, neighbors and family members revealed that Arowolo (Titilayo's husband) and Titilayo's marriage was characterized by so much violence and abuse. Titilayo's colleagues at work testified that she came to work many times with scars and bruises. 

    What did Titilayo do wrong? What could she have done in this situation? Should she have left the abusive relationship? Why did she not walk out of the marriage? Did she bottle everything up? Did she seek help or not? 

    Only Titilayo can answer these questions but unfortunately she is no more. 

    Perpetrators

    I did not believe Ms. Ifeoma Fafunwa when she said boldly that "Women are their worst enemies" until I came across this picture below: 
    Women like this strengthen the resolve of monstrous men like Arowolo (Titilayo's husband) who batter women. They raise hideous sons who think their muscles and the thing between their legs make them men. 

    We all have to rise, no matter the gender and orientation, and speak up with one voice against abuse. 

    Elias Gbadamosi , IYF Associate Contributor

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